Relationships are supposed to be a place of safety, comfort, and connection, yet many couples find themselves caught in painful cycles of fighting, distance, or misunderstanding. The culprit isn’t always the surface-level disagreement. More often, it’s something deeper: raw spots.

Relationships can be wonderful, but they can also be tough. Sometimes, couples who love each other still end up stuck in painful cycles of arguing, silence, or distance. Dr. Sue Johnson, a leading psychologist, calls these negative cycles “Demon Dialogues.” They aren’t about one partner being “bad” or “wrong.” Instead, they’re unhealthy patterns that couples fall into when they feel hurt, unheard, or disconnected.

Love is one of the most important parts of our lives. But love isn’t just about spending time together or sharing fun moments. Real love happens when people feel safe, understood, and cared for deeply. This is what Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) teaches us. It helps couples learn how to connect better by focusing on feelings and emotional needs. In this blog, we will explore what emotional connection really means, how unhealthy patterns can hurt relationships, and how therapy can help coup